Kelli Ohrtman Canab, Utah -
A driving and relationship question. Fiance drives her car, and shifts early--going 30mph in 5th gear. Engine makes a lot of noise, she wants him to stop doing it, but he thinks she's nagging. Is it doing damage? It may be--it sounds like he's lugging the engine, which is bad--can lead to knocking and pinging. If he won't accept this, he shouldn't drive her car. It's not nagging, because she's right.