From: Cheri Kretsinger

 

Subject: 1950s Home Ec--The Good Old Days

 

The following is from a 1950s Home Economics textbook intended to teach high school girls how to prepare for married life.

1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal--on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home, and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

3. Clear away the clutter: make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.

4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures, and he would like to see them playing the part.

5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher or vacuum. Try to encourage the childrento be quiet. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.

6. Some DON'TS: don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.

7. Make him comfortable: have him lean back in a comfortable chair, or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready forhim. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

8. Listen to him: you may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

9. Make the evening his: never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.

10. The goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.

Now the updated version for the '90s woman:

1. Have dinner ready: make reservations ahead of time. If your day becomes too hectic, just leave him a voice-mail message regarding where you'd like to eat and at what time. This lets him know that your day has been crappy and gives him an opportunity to change your mood.

2. Prepare yourself: a quick stop at the Lancome counter on your way home will do wonders for your outlook and will keep you from becoming irritated every time he belches at the table. (Don't forget to use his credit card!)

3. Clear away the clutter: call the housekeeper and let her know you'll need her for an extra day this week. Tell her that any miscellaneous items left on the floor by the children can be placed in the Goodwill box in the garage.

4. Prepare the children: drop them off at Grandma's!

5. Minimize the noise: when he arrives at home remind him that the washer and garbage disposal are still not working properly and the noise is driving you crazy (but do this in a nice way and greet him with awarm smile...this way he might fix it faster).

6. Some DON'TS: don't greet him with problems and complaints. Let him speak first, and then your complaints will get more attention and remain fresh in his mind throughout dinner. Don't complain if he's late for dinner. Simply remind him that the last one home does the cooking and the cleanup.

7. Make him comfortable: remind him where he can find a warm, fuzzy blanket if he's cold. This will show you really care.

8. Listen to him: but don't ever let him get the last word..

9. Make the evening his: a chance to get the washer and garbage disposalfixed.

10. The goal: to try to keep things amicable without reminding him that you make more money than he does.

[ As Read on Car Talk ]